hey i have this school debate coming up, regarding whether males have more pressure/stress or females. help would be appreciated!

Personally, I don't think either gender has any more pressure than the other. They have pressure in different places, but it's no greater or less than the other gender.

1). This is true. And in drafts, women aren't chosen, only men. But women face stereotypes if they join the army. "She's a dyke", "she's butch", "her husband/fiance/boyfriend is there and she doesn't trust him, so she joined to keep an eye on him", "she's too small", "she's too weak", "she's a girl, so she can't do the things we do."

2)Women have the pressure as well. Pressure to get married, have kids, find the "good/right" guy, and have boys to carry on the family name.

3)Same thing. Women are expected to cook, clean, take care of the children, shop for clothes/groceries/other necessities. While the men are at work, the women are expected to keep the house clean and running.

4) Again, it's equal. If women cry, they're "weak" and "soft". Both genders have the pressure to always look perfect, to look like the models on magazine covers.

I'm not entirely sure what side you're debating for, so I'm not sure if it helps. Just throwin' it out there.

It is late for me to be answering this question, and for that, I apologize.

Definitions:
stress for the purposes of this debate I will define as physical and mental discomfort brought about by negative emotional states.
Pressure I will define as a negative emotional state in response to expectations of performance (either expectations of others or expectations of the person himself)

Since you are presenting arguments about the pressures on males in Singapore, I'm having difficulty finding worthwhile statistics for your country. Here are some ideas for arguments you might make, along with statistical information you might seek to support those arguments:
* Human males and females process information in very different ways. Males are generally less communicative (and often less aware) of their emotions. So even in the cases where stressors are similar between males and females, what they do with that stress, and how they process that stress, can go a long way toward reducing or increasing the sense of pressure the person experiences. Females have a greater capacity for sharing their frustrations, talking about them, with others. It is an effect of different brain chemistry that this does not come as naturally to males. Just by being a male, before one even considers societal expectations, males are at a disadvantage in terms of processing and handling stress.

Statistics you might seek to support this:
- rates of stress-related health and mental health problems in males and females (how many men had ulcers? how many women had ulcers? how many men vs. women had nervous breakdowns?)
- addiction rates between males and females. Do more men seek comfort in a bottle or the arms of a prostitute than women?

* What is the consequence for males vs. females when they're wrong? What happens if they make a big mistake - are the consequences different? What sorts of mistakes are acceptable/understandable for each gender, and which aren't?

- suicide rates by gender
- amount of press attention on different transgressions by gender

* What is the level of competition that males experience at school, at work, in sports, and in public, versus females?
- if males are expected to be the "breadwinners" in Singapore, then statistics such as the rate of unemployment by gender would be worthwhile - there's pressure just to have a job
- I'm sorry to say I don't know what the education system in Singapore is. Are there private schools or public schools? Are there entrance exams to get into better or different schools? Are there schools where males are expected to go versus females? If so, what is the ratio between applicants and students accepted into these schools?

These are a few examples; I regret that I know so little about Singapore and so can't give more concrete statistics myself.

Well, three of the points on "2" are unisex pressures.

I think i might have a few things to add for your side of the debate, but i can't promise they'll be brilliant, sorry! but i hope this helps-
-he male hormones seems to make males feel like they have to be strong for the family. when tradegy strikes, men are required to keep a strong face and act as if nothing happened. they have the added pressure of the being the strong one who has to stay strong, and as you said "can't cry in public". Men also are pressured to keep their emotions to thereselves,they are meant to be emotionally detacted as it is considered manly not to worry or feel passionately about something.
- In their teenage years, men at school, or high schools, seem of have some kind of pack order. Whoever is the strongest, has the "hottest" girlfriend or is the most cool or respected seems to be the alpha male, some kind of pack leadership. Boys seem to be pressured to be the alpha male and to fit in among the boy-stereotype. Unlike females, boys and their friends are less likely to accept you if you are particullarly different to the rest of the boys at your school, and all the boys want to be in with the pack, therefore pressure to fit in.

Good luck, i hope you do well in your debate, oddly enough, i have a debate coming up soon as well! :) sorry if my arguements were a bit weak, it's just you covvered most of it yourself! :)

I would have to say women can scream there head, like me! I'm only 11 years old! I scream at my 8 year old sister! Really loud!