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a little help??please??

my best friends step-brother,
well what can i say...
basics:
hes a year below us in school
he used to get bullied by people in my class and older kids (i think he still does!)
his dad is quite hard on him!

in school:
its as if i dont exist, maybe its just because were not in the same year?
hes alot more annoying and gets into trouble even more!
hes a little bit of a jerk!

outside school:
hes-
funny
sweet
caring
kind
tries to impress me

i dont know what to do i really like him but i dont think he likes me! but i dont know what side is really him inside or outside?
 gleswigiagirl posted over a year ago
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chickencheese said:
Well, he probably acts like that at school because he is insecure- he's been bullied before, and may be being bullied now, so that's no surprise. You say he's nice outside of school, and he seems to like you, so why don't you ask him if everything's alright at school and stuff- just talk to him, and see what he's really like. It's most likely that he's a nice person who just has problems at school.

Hope that helps!
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that helps however i really doubt that he likes me! i really dont want to chance that just yet as he is my sisters step-brother i see him alot when im at her house and all 3 of us and 1 of his friends are going ice-skating this weekend! any suggestions of little signs to show i like him?
gleswigiagirl posted over a year ago
ScottishChic said:
I have the simpliest, and most likely scariest solution: ask him.
Tell him to stop acting like a jerk.
In my opnion, two wrongs don't make a right- so, just because he was bullied, doesn't mean he should bully others.
I think he DOES actually like you, if he's trying to impress you, but at school, well, you know how it is, you've got to be "cool" and the guys HAVE to act all tough, like, "Oh look at me! Look at me!" And if he's seen being nice his friends will probably pick on him so he's just trying to avoid it. Also, people act differently in school naturally just because there IS others around, some who like you and some who don't, it's like trying to survive so that they won't make the rest of his school life a misery.
He knows you, right? So, he is most likely acting normally around YOU.
But I honestly just say ASK HIM. It WILL be scary but if you get a good answer, then no harm no foul and if you don't get the answer you want, you can move on and just act civilised because he is you're friend's brother.
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Oh, I don't mean ask him out. I just meant ask him why he treats you differently at school than he does at home. Tell him you've never bullied him, so he should stop being mean. As for the showing signs thing from the above answer- just flirt a little! No gross, heavy stuff, just something cheesy like, "I never realised how sparkly your eyes were." Something like that... except better and make eye-contact with him, not in the I'M STARING AT YOU way. Oh, and smile at him. Not so much that it's like THE JOKER, just a nice wee smile- people usually smile back and pay him a lot of attention
ScottishChic posted over a year ago
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